“Boo, you whore.”

So, yesterday, Feministing asked the following question:

“I wonder what your personal take is. Why do you think adolescent girls, in particular, but women, in general, resort to competition, body snark, and passive aggressive manipulation? And most importantly, how can we stop it?”

This is something I have ALWAYS questioned, particularly recently.  Why is it that girls who already, more often than we would like, find themselves in oppressive situations, feel the need to oppress and degrade other girls? My 17-year-old self contemplated this a lot my last year in high school. It was that year that I decided that drama with other girls for the sake of being dramatic was never ever worth it. I was never really competitive in that way in the first place. Who would think it was worth it anyway? Perhaps girls who don’t have enough self confidence to not care? I have no clue. I think those types of behaviors really reveal the core of one’s character, to go out of one’s way to intentionally afflict mental harm on another person for means of personal gain or gratification. But, I guess this is how the world works? Ay ay ay.

mean girls

But I was really happy to see this brought up on the Feministing blog yesterday. It makes me feel like my attitude regarding these catty and often immature behaviors has been validated. :o ) That makes me happy. I totally want to pick up the book they talk about in their post, Rachel Simmon’s Odd Girl Out.

I’ll end this post with a great excerpt from Kathleen Hanna’s Riot Grrl Manifesto:

BECAUSE we are unwilling to let our real and valid anger be diffused and/or turned against us via the internalization of sexism as witnessed in girl/girl jealousism and self defeating girltype behaviors.”

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2 Comments

  1. cathy
    Posted October 24, 2008 at 6:56 pm | Permalink

    thought-provoking entry… it’s definitely jealous-ism!

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  2. Posted October 27, 2008 at 5:43 pm | Permalink

    I know right! How are we going to get to where we need to be if we don’t ban together?? I think further complicating this issue is when “feminism” or ideas about “feminism” start colliding. I was reading Smite Me http://www.smiteme.net/2008/10/23/uh-no/ who always has great posts and information up, in fact I found this blog discussing a PETA Ad with the same type of controversy, and these ads got me thinking about this exact subject. It’s like good… make the point that Sarah Palin is NOT a woman’s choice but if you do it like this dose it defeat the purpose??

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